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The conversation game
These conversation cards start with a score from 1 to 10. Everyone scores privately. Reveal together — and when the numbers do not match, that gap is the conversation you never quite get around to having.
The bit that makes it work
Nobody has to make a speech or go first. You just pick a number. But the moment two people pick different numbers about the same thing, there is something honest to talk about — and that is where the name comes from.
Relationship deck
How open are you with the people you love about what you actually need?
1 to 10 …
Three points apart. Neither of you knew that a minute ago.
and then …
“What is something you needed recently and did not ask for?”
This is the “And Then” half. Instead of leaving you to invent the next question, you get a short set of follow-ups built for the gap you just found. It is the difference between a scoring game and an actual conversation.
How to play
Reducing a belief to a number from 1 to 10 bypasses the usual defenses — and opens a clearer path into who we are with each other.
01
One question for the whole table. Pick whichever deck fits the room.
02
Rate yourself, and rate each other. Staying off 5 is the whole trick — a middle answer tells nobody anything.
03
Scores come out at the same time. Where they disagree, you have found tonight's real conversation.
Relationship deck
How open are you with the people you love about what you actually need?
1 to 10 …
Self deck
How honestly do you see the gap between who you are and who you present?
1 to 10 …
Spiritual deck
How willing are you to sit with questions that don't have neat answers?
1 to 10 …
Two ways to play
The app
Seven questions in every deck are free — enough for a full night. It keeps score for you, walks you through the And Then follow-ups, and plays in seven languages. One-time purchases if you want the rest. No subscription.
See the appThe printed decks
Real cards in a box, with scoring cards and dry-erase markers. No screens on the table, and it works as a present in a way an app never will.
Shop the decksTestimonials
If you want deep conversation and to really get to know one another — THIS IS THE GAME!
Made for some great conversations — especially with my oldest son who is usually pretty quiet. We all became instant fans.
A great way to get people really engaged in a provocative way!
Shop the decks
Start with a single deck of printed conversation cards, or get the complete set for every kind of meaningful talk. Sold out on a deck you want? Leave your email and we will tell you the day it is back.
Conversation cards for families, friends, and anyone who wants a more honest look at themselves. Score 1 to 10, reveal together, and talk about the gap.
Conversation cards for couples, and for the people closest to you. Score each card from 1 to 10, reveal together, and talk about the gap.
The 1 to 10 and Then Spiritual Deck is a fun and playful way to explore beliefs and ideas about the way the world works and the invisible forces that guide our life. You will be surprised what you find out about the people around you!
Get all three card games in a complete set! The complete card game set includes The Self Deck, The Relationship Deck and The Spiritual Deck - over 150 cards along with dry erase markers and scoring cards all for one low price! This is the best pack, the most fun and the greatest value!
