1 to 10 …
The app
Rate it 1 to 10.
Then talk about the gap.
Draw a card. Everyone scores it privately. Reveal together — and when the numbers do not match, the game gives you something specific to say next.
Seven free questions in every deck. No subscription.
Alex, here are your results
I make my partner feel heard
You rated yourself
7
Others rated you
4
8
3
Let's unpack your results!
ContinueA three-point gap. That is the whole point.
How a round works
The score opens it. The talk is the game.
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01
Draw a card
One question, read out loud. Pick any of the three decks.
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02
Score 1 to 10
Rate yourself, and rate each other. The game teaches you to stay off 5 — a middle answer tells nobody anything.
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03
And Then
Reveal the numbers together. Where they disagree, the app hands you the follow-up questions that turn a gap into a real conversation.
What that actually looks like
Relationship deck
How open are you with the people you love about what you actually need?
1 to 10 …
You said
7
They said
4
A three-point gap. That is the whole point.
And Then
“What is something you needed recently and did not ask for?”
The app walks you through a short set of these, so nobody has to invent the next question.
Three decks
Pick the kind of honesty you want tonight
Each deck has its own questions and its own And Then prompts. Seven questions in each are free, and they are the same seven for everybody — not a random handful from a locked pile.
Relationship deck
For couples and the people closest to you. The questions you keep meaning to ask.
How open are you with the people you love about what you actually need?
1 to 10 …
Self deck
For friends, roommates and family. Light on the surface, honest underneath.
How honestly do you see the gap between who you are and who you present?
1 to 10 …
Spiritual deck
For small groups who want structure without a lecture.
How willing are you to sit with questions that don't have neat answers?
1 to 10 …
What it costs
Free to play a real night. Pay only if you want more questions.
Free
Every deck, seven questions
Enough for a full session. Play the round, score each other, do the whole And Then. Replay them, switch decks, start again — free stays free.
Plus one "add your own" question, also free.
$4.99
Unlock one deck
The rest of the questions in whichever deck you just played. One payment, that deck is yours.
Relationship, Self or Spiritual.
$9.99
Unlock all three
Every question in every deck. Cheaper than buying the three separately.
Best value if you play often.
- No subscription. These are one-time purchases.
- No paywall before the fun. We only ask after you have finished the free questions.
- Your purchases follow you. Restore them on a new phone from the App Store or Play Store.
Prices shown in US dollars. Your app store may show a slightly different local amount. The printed decks sold on this site are a separate product.
Seven languages
Play in the language you actually talk in
The whole app is translated, not machine-dumped — questions, follow-up prompts and interface.
- English
- Nederlands
- Français
- Español (Latinoamérica)
- 简体中文
- Italiano
- Português (Brasil)
Also on a table
The printed decks are a different thing on purpose
The app is how you play anywhere — on the sofa, in a car, on a trip. The printed decks are the version you hand someone, keep on a shelf, and give as a present. Real cards, scoring cards and dry-erase markers in a box.
Play a real night, free.
Available on iPhone and Android. Three decks, seven free questions in each, no subscription.